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Dating and relationships: are they dreams come true or living nightmares? That’s the question Fern Lulham, who is blind, asks each month on Into You.

Into You

Dating and relationships: are they dreams come true or living nightmares? That’s the question Fern Lulham, who is blind, asks each month on Into You.

Recent episodes

Long Distance Love

Authored on September 2, 2021

On this month's Into You, we're asking the question, "Does absence really make the heart grow fonder?" as we find out what it's like to be in love with someone who lives far away from you.

I chat to Leo (from France) and Kyomi (from Peru), about the long-distance relationship which started when they met via a language exchange app called Tandem. Leo and Kyomi share what it was like when their first meeting was rudely interrupted by the pandemic and how they kept their long-distance love alive during lockdown.

I also speak to Grace, a YouTuber from Taiwan, who has had three long-distance relationships and shares her roller coaster journey to happiness, and gives advice about what you should consider before jumping into "this kind of sweet nightmare."

So grab your map and get ready to go the distance as we find out what love is like when your partner lives half a world away!

Leo and Kyomi's blog

Grace's YouTube channel

The Science Behind A Toxic Mind

Authored on August 5, 2021

In the final of our three-part series on domestic abuse, Fern speaks to psychologist and researcher Dr. Dina McMillan to uncover the science behind toxic relationships.

Dr. Dina shares why people become abusive, what to look out for in a potential partner and offers some tips and tricks she has used in dating in order to avoid getting involved with an abusive person.

Dr. Dina's passion for spreading the message about abuse and helping people find happy, healthy relationships is infectious and her insight into the psychology and dynamics behind domestic violence is invaluable.

All that and more on this month's Into You. This is an episode not to be missed!

When Silence Hides Violence

Authored on July 1, 2021

In this month's episode of Into You, I speak to TEDx speaker Andrew Pain, a male victim of domestic violence. Andrew shares his story of hiding the emotional and physical abuse he was facing at the hands of his ex-wife, how he believed he needed to "man up," and why he feared leaving the relationship may mean losing his children.

Andrew highlights the importance of boundaries in a relationship, and why having people you trust who can offer you an outside perspective can be crucial. He also speaks of the stigma and shame surrounding being a male victim of domestic abuse.

Follow Andrew's journey and find out what he learned along the way about romantic relationships and about himself.

Andrew's TEDx Talk